In recent weeks and months our community has experienced many traumatic events, such as the deadly gas main explosion in San Bruno, the recent ruptured pipe that leaked 48,000 gallons of raw sewage into our Redwood Shores Lagoon, followed days later by a small plane crash into that same lagoon, in which three people tragically died. Although we were all affected by these events, we were not affected in the same way. Those who witnessed the plane crash, or saw the plane heading toward them through their office window, or who bravely jumped into the lagoon hoping for survivors, experienced the accident in a very different way than those of us who drove by wondering why so many emergency vehicles were parked by the lagoon. As therapists, we wondered what the people in our community are doing with the realities of these events. Here are a few tips that may be helpful.

It is normal to think about and remember these events, to wonder about the persons who died and their families and friends. You may even think, “what if it was me”, or now have stress or fears that you never had before. Such reactions are perfectly normal responses to terrible events that occurred. But it is important to talk about this, to share your story and feelings with your friends, family, and coworkers. You may also have physical reactions, such as muscle tightness, body aches, and headaches, to name a few. Exercise, alternating with rest, can help give relief. Organize your time, and continue making daily decisions to give yourself a sense of control over your life. You may want to journal your thoughts or put the thoughts and feelings outside yourself, such as in a drawing or other art form. After a traumatic event, it is important to take care of yourself. Eat, rest and exercise as your normal routine allows. You may have recurring thoughts, dreams, or flashbacks. This is normal, and over time they will become less frequent and less painful. If you find that you fall deep into sadness, or can’t get the difficult thoughts out of your head, or are losing sleep, you might consider seeing a professional therapist who specializes in working with these issues.

Family life is a vibrant part of who we are in Redwood Shores. Model for your children the care and concern you would want for yourself. Be aware of how the children are processing these events and lend a listening ear. Let them tell their story without judgment, and let them know that their feelings and fears are being heard. Traumatic events change our lives. It is important to give yourself, your family, and co-workers the love and support that you all need to get through tough times.

— Dr. Carolee Stabno, PsyD, LMFT, and Sarah Nagle, LCSW